Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Friends & Neighbors PT-2 (Studies in Proverbs)



SPIRITUAL DIARY FOR 2/26/2013 8:23 AM
My Worship Time                                                                  Focus:  Friends & Neighbors PT-2
Bible Reading & Meditation                                     Reference:  Proverbs
            Message of the verses:  We have been looking at what the book of Proverbs has to say about friends and neighbors, and in particular we have been looking at the quality of true friendship.  We will try and finish this section in today’s Spiritual Diary.
            The quality of true friendship PT-2:  The first quality that we will look at this morning is the ability to control the tongue.  “With his mouth the godless man destroys his neighbor, But through knowledge the righteous will be delivered (Pr. 11:9).”  One way to remember to control the tongue is to have the ability to remember that we are not always to believe the first thing that we hear about a matter:  “The first speech in a court case is always convincing—until the cross-examination starts! (Pr. 18:17 The Message).”  “A man of understanding holds his tongue (Pr. 11:12b).”   If you realize that your neighbor is telling lies about you, then you must confront him but you are not to avenge those lies by lying yourself about him.  “28 ¶  Do not be a witness against your neighbor without cause, And do not deceive with your lips. 29  Do not say, "Thus I shall do to him as he has done to me; I will render to the man according to his work’ (Pr. 24:28-29).”  We are also to beware of people who cause you trouble and then say to you that “I was only joking.”  “18 ¶  People who shrug off deliberate deceptions, saying, "I didn’t mean it, I was only joking," 19  Are worse than careless campers who walk away from smoldering campfires (Pr.26:18-19 The Message).”
            Next:  Friends and neighbors must be loving honest with one another.  “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy (Pr. 27:6).”  As believers we cannot build a friendship on lies for we must tell the truth, and do it in a loving way, even if the truth will hurt.  “But we are meant to speak the truth in love, and to grow up in every way into Christ, the head (Eph. 4:15 Philips).”  We know that the Spirit of God can use the truth when we speak it, but Satan uses lies and flattery to tear down relationships, “He who rebukes a man will afterward find more favor Than he who flatters with the tongue (Pr. 28:3).”
            Don’t take advantage of a friend by thinking that they will immediately forgive our offences even though it is the right thing to do as a believer.  “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, And contentions are like the bars of a citadel (Pr. 18:19).”  Dr. Wiersbe writes “It’s strange but true that some of God’s people will forgive offenses from unbelievers that they would never forgive if a Christian friend committed them.  It takes a diamond to cut a diamond, and some Christians have a way of putting up defenses that even the church can’t break through.  Matthew 18:15-35 give us the steps to take when such things happen, and our Lord warns us that an unforgiving spirit only puts us into prison!”  2/26/2013 9:19 AM
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            Faithful friends and neighbors counsel and encourage each other:  I would suppose that this is a good place to say that the reason that I had to stop and start this SD was because that I was getting some counsel from our Pastor and so it kind of fits right into the conclusion of this Spiritual Diary.  “Oil and perfume make the heart glad, So a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend Proverbs 27:9).”  This probably speaks of when times when the subject of the counseling is without any problems or strife, but when there is trouble we can look at Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.”  Again we must follow Ephesians 4;15b, “speaking the truth in love.”
            Friends and neighbors must exercise tact and be sensitive to each other’s feelings:  We cannot spend too much time with each other as far as friends and relatives are concerned or we will wear out our welcome:  “Let your foot rarely be in your neighbor’s house, Or he will become weary of you and hate you.”  Friendship can be like trees, if we plant them to close together we will have a problem with their growth, and if we are to grow as a believer we need some space.  Dr. Wiersbe writes “Even husbands and wives must respect each other’s privacy and not be constantly together if their love is to mature.”
            “He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, It will be reckoned a curse to him (Pr. 27:14).”  We have to beware of our friends who just continually say good things about us even to the point that they wake us up early to talk to us.  Dr. Wiersbe writes “Love is sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs, and true friends try to say the right things at the right time in the right way.”  “Like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, or like vinegar on soda, Is he who sings songs to a troubled heart Pr. 25:20).” 
            Dr. Wiersbe concludes “A happy family, encouraging friends and good neighbors:  What blessings these are from the Lord!  Let’s be sure we do our part to make these blessings a reality in our lives and the lives of others.”
            Spiritual meaning for my life today:  I think that it is so wonderful that the Bible has such wisdom for situations like this, for it teaches us the right way to treat other people and how to make good friends and how to keep them and encourage them.
My Steps of Faith for Today:  Follow the things that I have learned from this subject and also from the counseling that I have received today from our Pastor.
Memory verses for the week:  Psalm 32:1-4
            1 Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered!  2 How blessed is the man to whom the LORD does not impute iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit!  3 When I kept silent about my sin my body wasted away through my groaning all day long.  4 For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away like the fever heat of summer.  Selah.
Turning Points Wisdom for Today:  “You are in His hands, and He is Lord.”  (David Jeremiah)  “Your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me.”  (Psalm 139:10)
2/26/2013 1:40 PM
           

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