Friday, February 22, 2013

Husbands & Wives PT-4 (Studies in Proverbs)



SPIRITUAL DIARY FOR 2/22/2013 12:06 PM
My Worship Time                                                                  Focus:  Husbands & Wives PT-4
Bible Reading & Meditation                                     Reference:  Proverbs 31
            Message of the verses:  We will continue looking at Proverb’s 31 in today’s Spiritual Diary.
            She is a woman who isn’t afraid to work (Proverbs 31:13-22, 24):  “13  She looks for wool and flax And works with her hands in delight. 14  She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. 15  She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens. 16  She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17  She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong. 18  She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. 19  She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle. 20  She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy. 21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22  She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.-- 24  She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen.”
            I know when I read these verses that I stop and wonder about how much energy that this woman has.  I wonder how in the world this woman can do all of the things that are described in these verses, but I suppose that they are not all done in one day.  It seems that she must have a list of things that she wants to accomplish and then she goes about doing them, she probably sets down the night before and decides what it is that she will do the next day and then goes out and does it the next day.  This is probably a summary of the things that she accomplishes throughout the year. 
            We see for sure in this section that she is a very hard working woman, but we also see that she is a very generous woman in verse twenty.  Proverbs 14:21 states, “He who despises his neighbor sins, But happy is he who is gracious to the poor.”  Proverbs 19:17 tells us that nothing that is given to the Lord will ever be lost, “One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the LORD, And He will repay him for his good deed.”
            The next thing that this woman is seen to do is found in verse 23 and it is there that we discover that she makes it easy for her husband to do his work.  “Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.”  From my study on the book of Ruth and in chapter four we find that the business of that day was done at the city gate, and the husband of this woman can be found doing his business there for he does not have to be concerned about what his wife is doing unlike the woman we meet earlier in the book of Proverbs who was out in the night looking for someone else to bed down with.  This man has no worries about that and so he can conduct his business without any fear of what his wife is doing.
            Dr. Wiersbe writes the following, “A husband and wife should complement each other as they each seek to fulfill their roles in the will of God.  Wise is that husband who recognizes his wife’s strengths and lets her compensate for his weaknesses.  Doing this isn’t a sign of personal failure, nor is it rebellion against the divine order (1 Cor. 11:3).  Both leadership and submission in a home are evidences of love and obedience, and the one doesn’t nullify the other.”
            Next we see that this woman is confident as she faces the future, “Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future (Pr. 31:25).”  Let’s look at the highlighted part of this verse, clothed.  This is an interesting phrase found in the Word of God: “9 ¶  Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, 10  but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness (1 Tim. 2:9-10)  “We see from this verse that to be clothed with something means that it is a part of your life and reveals itself in your character.”
            Next we see that this woman is a capable teacher of wisdom from Proverbs 31:26:  “She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”  We can realize that this woman is a wonderful teacher of her children and I would suspect that her children are willing learners because of the way that she is able to teach them because of her wisdom. 
            We see in Proverbs 31:27 that she is an attentive overseer of the household.  “She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.”  How could one ever think that this woman ever ate the bread of idleness?  That would be the farthest thing from my mind as I look at what this woman accomplishes with her life.  Dr. Wiersbe writes “Any husband and father who thinks that his wife has it easy should take her responsibilities for a week or two and discover how wrong he is!”
            Next we see in verses 28-29 that this woman is worthy of praise:  “28  Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: 29  ‘Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.’” We can be assured that the praise that this woman receives from her husband and children was not something that was spontaneously or just on special occasions, but this was something that was regular in this household.   Dr. Wiersbe writes “It’s tragic when the members of a family take each other for granted and fail to show sincere appreciation.”
            Next we see that this woman fears the Lord and oh how very important this quality is:  “30  Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.”  Let’s look at how Peter writes about this in 1Peter 3:1-6, “1 ¶  In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2  as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3  Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4  but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5  For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6  just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.”  We see from Proverbs 31:30 that this woman must have been a sight to behold, but the most important things was found in her character, and that she loved and walked with the Lord.  I am reminded of the story of Jacob when he was forced to leave home because of the trick he had played on his brother who is said would have killed him if he stayed there.  He went to his uncle Labon’s house and upon arrival he saw what would be his cousin Rachel, and when he saw her he fell in love with her right away.  He had to work for his uncle for seven years in order to marry Rachel, but his uncle played a trick on the trickster as he put Rachel’s sister Leah in the tent where Rachel was suppose to be.  Jacob was very upset at this trick and then he had to work another seven years for this new bride.  The point in all of this is that it was through the children that came from Jacob and Leah that the Messiah would come, and when Rachel died she was buried near Bethlehem while Leah was buried in the cave that Abraham bought and was buried in.  Leah may have not been the best looking woman, but it seems to me that she was the one who was more used by the Lord and in the end I think that Jacob realized it too.
            Finally we see that her life is a testimony to others.  I suppose that this is not too hard to figure out as most of Proverbs 31 is dedicated to her.  “31  Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.”  Let’s look at another verse in Proverbs “A gracious woman attains honor, And ruthless men attain riches.”  We are only looking at the first part of this verse and we see that a woman who is gracious, which is surely true of the woman in Proverbs 31, will attain honor, and we can see that honor being bestowed upon her in verse thirty-one.
            In conclusion Dr. Wiersbe writes, “This beautiful tribute to the godly wife and mother tells every Christian woman what she can become if she follows the Lord.  It also describes for every Christian man the kind of wife for whom he ought to be looking and praying.  But it also reminds the prospective husband that he’d better be walking with the Lord and growing in his spiritual life so that he will be worthy of such a wife if and when God brings her to him.”
            Spiritual meaning for my life today:  One of the things that I came from the ten suggestions for a husband to follow in honoring his wife was that praise should be given to her on a regular basis and that is also what is seen here.  Not to take for granted what someone does for you is a hard thing to do, but it should not be a hard thing to do.  Only by the grace of God will I be able to do it better.
My Steps of Faith for Today:  Praise the Lord for my hard working wife.
Memory verses for the week: Psalm 32:1-3
            1 How blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, Whose sin is covered! 2 How blessed is the man to whom the LORD does not impute iniquity, And in whose spirit there is no deceit! 3 When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away Through my groaning all day long.
Turning Points Wisdom for Today:  “God’s promises are like stars; the darker the night the brighter they shine.”  (David Nicholas)  “For all the promises of God in Him are yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us.”  (2 Corinthians 1:20)
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